Join the Gym

Truth / Kindness / Patience training built from the conflicts you actually live through — not generic lessons.

Selflessness that hurts. Log the sacrifice, how bad it hurt (1–10, no 7), what made it hurt that bad, and what happened. Points reward cost, not size — a small sacrifice from a man who has never had to sacrifice outscores a big gesture from someone for whom big is normal. Every entry is checked for honesty against the reason you gave.

A private AI dashboard showing your pattern of growth over time, with encouragement. It is not a record of your failures, and nobody else sees it.

A weekly Zoom fireside chat with husbands from experience, split into small groups. After you log a rep you're asked — never forced — whether you want to bring it to the call. Same loop every time: vent, face the truth, figure out what dying to self looks like this week, commit to doing it again. Groups are encouraged toward daily check-ins in between.